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Affirmations #4: Being Genuine

"Don't take it personally."

Oh, that affirmation last week was a good one. I realized how many things I take personally in my day-to-day life. (Hint: a lot!) One such story coming later this week. Stay tuned.

On a few occasions last week I was able to recognize where I was about to take something personally and was able to change my thought process to instead consider other possible meanings.

In other instances where I wasn't as lucky to catch myself in the act of taking things personally, I was able to reflect later on what happened and how I could respond in the future.

That's a big lesson, don't you think?

This week I feel like I need to focus on another aspect of myself:

I am genuine. My actions and behavior reflect my true self.

I've had something of an identity crisis for the last, oh, 30+ years. I am a people pleaser who has spent most of my life trying to keep (or make) other people happy.

What I'm learning is this: I need to be true to myself in order to best serve those around me. I can't help others effectively if I am trying to be something that doesn't fit.

So this week out with the people pleasing, in with authenticity! Only by fulfilling my core values can I help others fulfill theirs.

What will you focus on this week?

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  1. What a great post! (I am new to your blog) Like you, I've spent the better portion of my life as a 'people pleaser' and STILL feel a little guilty when I don't please everyone all the time. Good grief!

    Anyway,I am learning to be genuine as well. It is a hard road to walk, but I find myself feeling better about myself and much, much better at establishing boundaries.

    Thank you for the reminder. This week I am working on compassion. Long story, but I need to be more compassionate toward my husband as he has had a rough go lately with his daughter.

    Wish me luck!

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  2. Thank you for your kind words, Talia. Being a people pleaser can be tough. Compassion is a great quality to foster and I'm sure you will feel a difference in your week.

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