Monday, June 11, 2012

Scaling Your Dreams (Bigger isn't always better)

Have you noticed all the people out there encouraging you to “play big” or “uplevel?” Generally, they are exciting, energetic people with a big following, a hugely profitable self-owned business, speaking engagements, and workshops that “will sell out fast, so reserve your spot now!”

Reading blog posts from these kinds of people or listening to their podcasts, I get really excited. From their blogs and free teleconferences, I have learned how to grow a business, how to market, how to price products. I come away thinking, “Yeah, I can totally do that!”

Shortly after tuning in to these sessions I start feeling like I’m not doing enough, or anything really. I actually start to feel like I’m failing in some way.

Instead, I stay in the dreaming cycle, perpetually studying myself to uncover my one true passion. If only I could figure out what that was, I could have my own mini-empire and be known around the world.

All of that sounds great, but here’s the thing: I don’t want it.

I don’t really want to be famous. All of those eyes scrutinizing me over everything I do? No thanks. I like having my own little corner of the web where I can do my own thing, whatever that may be.

I don’t want to run a multi-million dollar small business. It sounds exhausting.

I don’t want to travel all over and lead workshops with hundreds or thousands of people. I recently led a small group workshop series two miles from my home with seven attendees. I loved it! The discussions we were able to have with everyone contributing made for an engaging experience and I got to know people in my own community.

This world seems to push us all to be bigger, faster, stronger, and if that’s your thing, go for it. I’ll be here to cheer you on.

As for me my small world suits me right now. That doesn’t mean I’ve stopped growing. I continually learn everything I can and stretch my own limits to better myself. It just means I’m okay being in the small pond. I like having time to putter and explore. I like being able to interact with people one-on-one.

Dreams are not one size fits all. They are personal. They must fit you, your needs, your desires.

Maybe you want to travel around the world, filling passports three times over. Maybe you have one particularly country you really want to explore. Maybe you just want to try every coffee shop within 10 miles of your home. These are all great goals.

Scale your dreams to fit what you truly want, whether it’s big, small, or somewhere in between.

Are your dreams scaled to suit you or are you dreaming bigger (or smaller) because someone else expects that of you? What goal can you rework today to fit what you truly want?

3 comments:

  1. Amen! This is very wise advice. Many of us are already content with our lot in life.

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  2. You have read our minds! We don't need to be rich and famous. We can contribute a lot right where we are. Thanks for putting this message up. Have a super day.

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  3. This is such a really lovely post--honest, true, and wise. It's so easy to fall into the thinking that me all must aspire to reach the summit of Everest. It's a sad and pitiful thing when we succumb to worldly pressures simply because it's expected. Far better to be a "rebel" with the courage to stay focused on your own paths and the desire to reach our own place of contentment.

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