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Weekend Inspiration - Real Love is Messy

Love. Talk about a complicated beast. There's a whole holiday dedicated to forcing couples to be nice to each other. Did you ever think about it that way?

This Valentine's Day was pretty good. My husband surprised me with a fruit arrangement full of grapes, strawberries, and heart-shaped pineapple, along with a box of chocolate-covered strawberries. In the attached note he said, "You're pretty and you smell nice." No, I'm not kidding and yes, I thought it was adorable. We're weird like that. (Mutual weirdness works well.)

Since love is in the air (and the stores), this dose of weekend inspiration is about just that. But as you may already know, love isn't always perfect. It rarely looks like the fairy tales or romantic comedies.

Real love is hard work. Sometimes it's awesome. And sometimes, well, sometimes it kind of sucks. It's messy and complicated. It's also fun and supportive.

That being said, here are a few posts that tell it like it is.

Real Love: What It Looks Like. The Good. The Hard. And How To Make It Better from Leonie Dawson - As you might surmise from the title, Leonie talks straight on this one.
Two people being ... stubborn about having a long lasting relationship.

Two people deciding to grow and heal.

Even when it doesn’t look or feel easy or graceful.

Confessions of a Resentful Wife on Pace and Kyeli - Pace talks about moving from "90% wholehearted" to 100% wholehearted. This post is honest, sweet, and may require a tissue.
I try my best to be compassionate, but sometimes I fail. I think how inconvenient this is for me, how it's hard on me, how I have to do all the work now.

Why Relationships Fail: 4 Tips to Make Love Last at Tiny Buddha - About the importance of healing ourselves to have healthy relationships.
When you go from “needing” love, affection, and support to fill a hole in yourself, to “sharing” love and happiness from a place of fullness, your relationship (and life!) will blossom into something truly amazing and lasting.

What about you? What are your thoughts on love? How do you keep it working in your relationship?


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