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Flecks #31


It has been a while since I've written a flecks post. Mostly because I used to write these weekly, but lately my blogging has become less frequent, so I didn't want all of my posts to be flecks.

What do I mean by flecks? Flecks of reflection from the week: what I'm learning and celebrating. Have I repeated the word enough to make it lose meaning? Probably.

Here we go...

Things I learned this week:

  • Having a team supports growth and progress. I don't mean a paid team that helps accomplish work (though I'm sure that is wonderful, too). I mean having people that cheer you on and ask questions to help you understand yourself and remind you who you are when you get lost. This is so valuable. This week, I specifically want to thank Sara, Alina, Elora, and Ginny. Thank you so much for being part of my team.

  • Flowers make the kitchen feel more inviting. Even $4.99 flowers from the grocery store.

  • A clean kitchen makes the whole house feel better.

  • Weather affects mood. We have had some invigorating sunny days and some quiet damp days. I love them both.

Things I'm celebrating this week:

  • Articulating how I want to serve myself and others. This was huge! Want to hear it? My goal is to enhance the quality of life through self-awareness and personal growth, which will lead to self-acceptance and others-acceptance for improved self-esteem and interpersonal relationships.

  • Articulating who I want to serve. Another huge step for me and previously, my answer has always been, "Um... women like me?" So here it is: I want to serve women in family partnerships--wives, ex-wives, moms, stepmoms. Women whose lives are shared daily with other people. Women who may feel like they lose themselves from time to time and want to feel their own identity while maintaining their family roles.

  • Progress with an idea I am beginning to study.

  • A new client.

  • Productivity.

  • Rest.

  • Budding trees. Our apple, cherry, peach, and plum trees all have buds, as do the trees that line our street. By this time next week, it should be quite a sight.

Things that are resonating with me:

Seed by Stephanie Perkinson on Annapurna Living, in which she says, "Everything that has happened to you. All the good, all the bad, has gifted you a seed. Now, some of them may have blown away in the wind. Some may have already been planted and some are probably still stored in your pocket. These seeds are opportunity. They are hope. They are a second chance. They are forgiveness. They are intuition. They are wisdom."

Lessons learned from nine years of blogging by Susannah Conway, in which she reflects, "My online persona is pretty close to my off-line persona, though in the 3D world I’m far more sweary."

The book Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives by Gretchen Rubin. I am learning about the tendencies and distinctions that affect my behavior. I recognize that I like rules, that 9:00 a.m. is my most productive time of day, that I am a procrastinator, and that I get a thrill from using things up.

How to Do a Do-Over, a recent podcast by Jeff Goins. In this interview, Jon Acuff talks about walking away from his dream job. Because sometimes the dream job isn't quite what we imagined. Sometimes you need a do-over.

Your turn:

What did you learn this week? What are you celebrating? Leave a comment and I'll share a "Woohoo!"



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