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Interview: Bill Apablasa

Each Wednesday is Wonderstruck Interview day. Hearing other people’s stories is a great way to see things from a different perspective and perhaps find something new to apply to our own lives.

Today’s interviewee is Bill Apablasa, creator of theother99rooms.com.

BillApablasaWhat have you been wonderstruck by recently?

Easy answer for me. It’s my wife. I’ve been writing about her recently on my blog, so she is on the top of my mind. But, the truth is, she’s always there. Even after 27 years of marriage, I feel wonderstruck by her each day. Even those times when my vertigo flairs up and she threatens to spin me around in my chair, or all those times when she lovingly tells me that I “make her itch.”

And it’s not that her life is all that extraordinary. In fact, it’s pretty normal. Plain wrap. Vanilla. And while I won’t use those words for her next Valentines day card, it’s true.

And, yet, beneath the humdrum ordinariness of her life, she is a woman who lives an extraordinarily conscious and exciting life. She can bring awareness and beauty to tasks as mundane as the laundry. She’s not just the love of my life, but my own personal Buddha monk, only with a tougher left hook.

What part of your day are you grateful for?

I’m a big fan of 11:11. AM or PM. They both work. For as long as I can remember, my son and I have been big fans of the time. I know it’s a spiritual number of some sorts, but for us it’s a connection. Out of the 14 times a week the number strikes on a clock, at least 7 times I will get a text from my son. All it will say is: 11:11. It’s a small sign that says he’s thinking of me, or I’m thinking of him. Many times we’ll text it at the same time, or run in from the other room to point at the clock. I take that brief moment to silently give thanks for him, as well as for my daughter, who apparently never bothers to check the time.

What part of your day is tough? How do you move through it?

Over the past year, I have had health issues pop up in my life. I was diagnosed with Meniere’s Disease in one ear and a benign tumor in the other ear, both of which have affected my hearing and balance. Because of this, the mornings have been tough and I’ve had difficulty adjusting to them. I am a little slower. Less stable on my feet. And before my diagnosis, I used to be the quintessential morning person. Up early, roaring to go, and always with a spring in my step. But, now, I’ve had to find a new rhythm. I’ve had to make adjustments and learn to be more patient.

The best way for me to move through it is with gratitude. There are a lot of people far worse off than I am. I got off easy. I can also honestly say that no matter how hard the past few months have been, I am a better person today because of the struggles I’ve faced. Like all challenges, I’ve been given the opportunity to look at my life in a new way. It has made me who I am today.

What do you wish you are more conscious of?

As all life is a spiritual moment, I want to be more conscious of every thing in my day, right down to the tiniest, seemingly most insignificant moment.

How do you stay focused on what is truly important to you?

I think the key to staying focused is to live in the moment. To slow down long enough to see what matters. I have to constantly work on this. It doesn’t come easy. I get so busy with my life that I end up missing things because I’m focused on something that has already happened or will be happening in the future. Of course, it doesn’t matter how slow you go if you don’t open your eyes and heart to see what’s in front of you.

About Bill Apablasa:

Bill Apablasa is a husband, father, baby-booming sherpa, social experimenter, writer, filmmaker, blogger, and nomadic homebody, who writes about reinventing your life at www.theother999rooms.com.

Find Bill here:

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/TheOther999Rooms
Twitter: https://twitter.com/billapablasa
Company website: www.sherpa9media.com

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